So, just over five years ago, my life changed and I became a mum. I’m not going to go into all the crazy changes that motherhood has brought about in my life… that isn’t the purpose of this post. What I want to focus on here is the change that I have experienced in my MIND since I became a mother.
I have found that in the last 5 years my mind has become busier and busier. So busy that I have had to seek out and implement ways to quiet it down and save my sanity!
Now I’m not saying that motherhood has driven me insane! However I will admit that I struggle sometimes with the noise that fills my head since the children arrived.
Motherhood made me reassess EVERYTHING! So much so that I have completely changed my career!
After my son was born I was fortunate enough to be able to reduce my working hours in my office job to part-time. This was partly for financial reasons and to save on the extortionate childcare costs, but also to give me the luxury of spending some more time with my son in these early years. I was very lucky to have this opportunity and I am so grateful for how that all worked out.
However, switching from full-time to part-time left me feeling rather unfulfilled in my work and that is when the “noise” started to increase. Mixed in amongst the new and terrifying emotions that come with being a new mum, was a distinct feeling of lack of direction. What was I doing? Where was I going? Who was I??
That is when I took the plunge and decided to get qualified in fitness & Pilates. Something I had secretly always wanted to do, but never believed that I could or should! Again, I was extremely fortunate and was able to organise my time and teach some classes in the evenings and at weekends while still working in the office part time. Not only was this good for the bank balance, but it was also so good for my mental state! I felt more fulfilled and as a result more positive about things.
After some time, my little daughter came along 🙂 Suddenly I was a mother of 2 small people! A mother of 2 with a part time job and a business to run in my ‘spare time’. Eeek!! The noise levels started to increase….in every way imaginable!
Before I continue, I really want to stress how grateful I am! I have 2 beautiful children, I had a job that paid me and let me rearrange my hours to fit in with the kids… and I had the support at home to be able to go out and follow my dream teaching classes in the evenings and weekends! I fully appreciate how fortunate I am for all these things.
However…. the busyness that all these things brought about has been a struggle and there have been times when I have questioned everything and wanted to run away somewhere quiet and possibly never return!
Fortunately, the universe intervened and at the end of 2015 I was thrown life line! This might seem like a strange life line to some as it came in the form of REDUNDANCY! That awful word that so many of us have unfortunately heard in recent times… Business wasn’t good and the company I worked for needed to lose some people from their workforce. Thankfully for me, this was actually exactly what I needed to happen.
My husband’s cousin had spoken to me previously about a company called Forever Living, a health and wellbeing company. I had heard of this company before and was already using their signature Aloe Vera Drinking gel, but I wasn’t interested in taking on anything else from a business point of view. That was before the redundancy word came along! Now the timing was right, so I met up with her again and got myself set up as a Forever Living business owner. I knew instantly that this was the perfect business for me to work alongside my fitness and Pilates work. Again, I fully appreciate how fortunate I was! I was in a position where I had an alternative solution. In fact, my alternative solution was what I had dreamed of happening but just wasn’t quite brave enough to admit – taking the leap to become fully self-employed and not have to pay someone else to look after my children!
So my office job came to an end in the summer of 2016 and since then I have been fully responsible for my income and fully responsible for the childcare of my 2 children!
Now, please let me be clear as I don’t want to be misleading in any way here.
I was TERRIFIED! I still am a little terrified at times!
I miss the regular pay popping into my account each month…. of course I do!
I miss holiday pay….. I sometimes miss the security that a job brings.
However, I can now say that I LOVE what I do. That is priceless 🙂
So, what has all this got to do with a mindset challenge??
Well, this noise in my head wasn’t going away. In fact, spending more time with the children increased the noise both in my house and in my head! (they both love to chat!!) The new uncertainty and anxiety about work was filling my head with worries and stress. The new possibilities of what I could actually do were filling my head with ideas and I was finding it increasingly hard to focus. I was in a state of overwhelm! Too many ideas and not enough time to quietly focus on them and figure out which ones to go with and which ones to leave alone or postpone until later…. I felt that sense of lack of direction creeping back in. This was horrible because I had been so sure that my new status of ‘self-employed’ was going to be nothing other than fulfilling!
Thankfully, I was not alone! Thankfully I had found Forever Living! I am so thankful for all the people I have met through this business as they have had a MASSIVE impact on my mindset, which is the whole focus of this blogpost!
The team that I am part of is just fantastic. They put on regular trainings for us and these are not only to learn about the products, but also to help us work on ourselves. This was so unexpected for me and I had no idea of the impact that this whole experience was going to have on me!
I have been introduced and exposed to so many inspiring people and books and tools to use to help work on my mindset since meeting all my Forever Living friends and colleagues. We encourage eachother to focus on the positives in our days and to spend a little time every day working on ourselves, to find ways to better manage our time, to improve our focus and productivity, to dream big and never settle…
This sort of encouragement was exactly what I needed and came to me at exactly the right time! Isn’t it funny how often things come to you just when you need them the most?
So, having experienced first hand how wonderful it is to have the support of others when it comes to working on your mindset and also how powerful your mind is and what an impact your thoughts can have on your life, I decided to instigate a challenge within my Facebook community.
I have created a group on Facebook where I share tips on keeping healthy, such as workout ideas or challenges, or healthy recipes. I thought this was the perfect place to run a challenge about creating and maintaining a positive mindset.
We are only on day 3 now and already I am feeling the positive vibes being shared more in the group!
There is only one rule for the challenge. You must commit to dedicate at least FIVE MINUTES EVERY DAY towards working on your mindset. This can be done first thing in the morning, last thing at night, or at any random time throughout the day when you feel inspired to do it. You can use the time to write in your journal, meditate, sit in silence, go for a contemplative walk, write down some things you feel grateful for, visualise where you would like to be, speak out some positive affirmations…. really anything at all! It just has to be focussed around positivity and you have to do something every day for 21 days.
Why 21 days? Well, research shows that this is how long it takes to form a habit. It then takes a lot longer (90 days or more!) to sustain it and keep it going, but there is now a lot of research to prove that 21 days is a good length to aim for when trying to create a new habit.
If you would like to join this Facebook community, you are SO welcome! I have a free daily check-in sheet available in there for you to follow during the 21 days and will be posting various tips and ideas as well. You are welcome to start this challenge any time so it doesn’t matter at all if you have missed the ‘official’ start date.
To join our group just click here and I will be delighted to welcome you!
I really cannot recommend these minsdet practices enough. Do them regularly and you will definitely start to notice a difference. Make mindset work a daily habit and it will honestly change your life!
I still have a lot of noise in my life. Of course I do! I have 2 small children! I also live in this crazy social media world! A world where we are never truly alone and never fully quiet… We are contactable 24 hours a day and by people from all corners of the world! It is a wonderful world and social media is a wonderful tool to use, especially for us small business owners! But it is also dangerously addictive and can become a massive time thief!
So I urge you to take some time out EVERY DAY to work on YOU. Away from your phone, away from the notifications and updates… Just you and your mind. Make a commitment to yourself, stick to it and then wait for the magic to happen 🙂