What were you doing 5 years ago?

What do you hope to be doing 5 years from now?

2 big questions right?

I spent a lot of January contemplating where I am, where I have been and where I would like to be and I realised a few things…

Firstly, I realised that I have come a lot further than I give myself credit for!

My life has changed dramatically over the last five years! The biggest change is that I became a mother of 2 when my daughter was born in May 2014, making my then toddler-son a big brother! What a whirlwind that has been!! Motherhood is the best and yet hardest thing I have ever experienced! I have extreme highs and extreme lows in my role as “mummy” – extremes that I had never really experienced before…

I have come through a complete change of career, spurred on by a redundancy from my office job of 10 years and all the emotional fallout that came with that (!!!)

I have qualified as a Pilates instructor and Meditation Teacher and am now teaching classes regularly in the community and have a regular base of individual clients as well.

And I have gone back to school to study Hypnotherapy & Counselling to add to my skillset and deepen my knowledge & expertise.

I mention these things simply to let you know what a period of transition the last 5 years have been for me. Every area of my life has changed – Family, career, studies…. Yet, before I really took the time to contemplate these things, I had an overriding feeling that I hadn’t really accomplished anything of any real significance.


Why are we so often reluctant to recognise what we have accomplished and instead focus on all the things that didn’t work out like we wanted them to?

I had so many plans that I thought about starting, but never managed to get off the starting block…. so many projects that I started but didn’t finish… And I seem to focus on these unfinished things!

I would NEVER remind my friends or children of all the things they DIDN’T accomplish!! I would never be so discouraging and negative when talking to others so why do I talk this way to myself??

This was certainly food for thought….

Another thing I realised is that I don’t actually have a clear vision of what I want to be doing 5 years from now and I’m ok with that! I know that I like what I am doing and what I am working towards right now and I have a rough idea of what I’d like to be doing in the future, but it certainly isn’t a crystal clear vision or goal…. not yet.

I have a greater understanding and acceptance of the fact that things will constantly change and I am actually really pleased to know this!

My family will change as my children grow older. In 5 years time I will have an 11 year old son and a 9 year old daughter and will be dealing with all the fun and challenges that 11yr olds and 9yr olds bring! I accept that I cannot control these changes, but that I can accept, welcome and ENJOY them!

I also recognise that while I may have clarity on the path I want to follow right now, I will probably need to change things along the way. I am quite relaxed about not knowing exactly where I will be in 5 years and I will welcome each progression and development as it comes. I recognise that change is necessary and inevitable and that without change we will never move forwards.

I also recognise that in the case of my career I do have control over these changes. I have experienced this first hand over the last 5 years!

While redundancy may not seem like something we can control, we can control how we deal with it and what we do with the situation we have been given.

I am carrying this belief with me as I progress through my self-employed life and as I develop and grow my business. And the beauty of self-employment is that I am 100% in control of what I do! If something is working well, I can develop it and do more of it! I can adapt what I am doing to fit in with my changing family.

Similarly, if something isn’t working so well or doesn’t quite fit, I can change it.

And whether you are self-employed, employed, on a career break or a stay-at-home-parent, you too have the control! Nobody else is living your life, only YOU! You are the Pilot and YOU alone have the control over what direction you take and what path you follow.

So yes, I have a rough idea of where I want to be 5 years from now. But I am willing to adapt and change this over the course of time if I believe it to be the right thing to do.

They say a goal without a plan is just a wish and this is so true! We need a plan in order to make things happen. However, we must be adaptable. Life will throw things our way that we didn’t expect….good things and bad things! We can choose to panic and feel angry that “life” is working against us and thwarting our plans, or we can choose to accept what we have and use it to our advantage. We can choose to change our plan, change our path…

For one thing is surely true – if you change nothing, nothing will change.

It was a real eye-opener for me taking the time to contemplate where I have come from and where I am going… I highly recommend you do the same and ask yourself these same questions. Who knows what new thoughts it might spark in your mind?!

As always, feel free to share if you experience any lightbulb moments! I love to hear from you 🙂

This is a quick summary of what we have covered in the first 2 weeks of our Journaling January.

It’s never too late to get started!

You can take as much or as little time as you wish with each prompt, moving through them one day at a time or much quicker if you prefer.

The purpose of the first couple of weeks of questions is to get us really thinking about our lives. What we like, what we don’t like… What we are good at, what we need to work on…

The last couple of weeks is when we get really focussed in on our hopes and dreams for the year ahead.

I understand that not everyone is into writing goals… not everyone needs or wants a goal to work towards! However what I often hear is that people really do like to have a focus, but they find it difficult to define their goals. People struggle to get clear on what they really want to achieve, or what they realistically can work towards in a specific time frame.

If you are one of these people, then this month of journaling could help you figure it all out a bit more.

Also, by writing every day for a month, you will be closer to developing a HABIT of journaling, or even just of thinking a little deeper about your life…your dreams and your goals 🙂

So here is a summary of the first 13 days of prompts:

DAY 1 – What were the 5 BEST things that happened in 2018? 

Write lots of details about the 5 best thing from 2018. How did you feel? Why have you picked these things? Relive them and ENJOY them all over again!

DAY 2 – What did you start but not finish in 2018?  Why?

Reflect back on what you started but didn’t finish and try to figure out why you didn’t make it to the end. Was it a lack of time or motivation that got in your way? Do you want to try again this year or is it better to just let it go?

DAY 3 – How is your physical health and fitness right now?

Are you happy with where you are at right now? If so, is there anything you could improve on? If you aren’t happy, how can you start making some changes? What can you start doing NOW to get closer to where you want to be? Are you willing to make some sacrifices?

DAY 4 – Write down everything you have to be grateful for.

Gratitude helps us to see the positive in our lives and not dwell on the negative. Did you know that adopting a positive outlook on life actually attracts more positivity your way? All you have to do is open your eyes and be aware of all you have around you.

DAY 5 – What do you enjoy doing for fun & relaxation?

It’s vital to know how to relax. It’s not something that is just “nice to do”. As human beings, we NEED to relax and unwind. What do YOU like to do for fun and relaxation?

DAY 6 – How are you feeling today?

It is so important to stop and pay attention to how we are feeling. Tracking your mood is a great way to notice if there are any patterns in your life that may need adjusting. Similarly, if you are feeling great, take a moment to relish in that and enjoy it!

DAY 7 – What BAD habits would you like to quit this year? Why?

A Bad habit is something you do without thinking that negatively impacts your life in some way. What do you need to STOP doing?

DAY 8 – What GOOD habits would you like to start this year?  Why?

Think about the bad habits and see if you could replace any with some good ones? Don’t overwhelm yourself with too many – focus on a couple initially and then see what you can add in.

DAY 9 – Are you happy with your work/life balance?

Whether you love or loathe what you do to earn money, it is so important that it doesn’t take over your life and prevent you from doing the fun stuff!

DAY 10 – What did you find challenging in 2018?

Life will always throw challenges our way. But with every challenge there is a lesson to learn. What lessons can you learn from last year’s challenges? How can you be better equipped to deal with these things in the future?

DAY 11 – When do you feel best about yourself?

Think about when you really feel good! What are you good at? What do people compliment you on? When do you feel like you are really in control of things?

DAY 12 – What is your morning routine?  Are you happy with it?

All the self development books talk about the importance of a good morning routine. Take a few moments to think about yours and if you are happy with it. If not, what do you want to change?

DAY 13 – Do you get enough sleep?  If not, why not?

Think about how you feel when you wake each morning. If you wake feeling exhausted each day you probably aren’t getting enough sleep… Try changing your bedtime routine. Herbal teas, meditation, relaxing bath, go to bed EARLIER!

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Happy Journaling!